On Feeling Like You’re Not Special & Have Nothing to Contribute

I LOVE to read. And while I read I takes notes, TONS of notes. I have notes saved in my phone, I have notes written in notebooks…in fact…collecting notebooks is a problem for me. If it says “Carpe Diem” on it, it’s a must have. If it has pretty flowers on it, I must have it. If it’s an obscure shape, I must have it. If it has rose gold on it somewhere, I must have it. I think you get the picture…

Where was I…..? Oh yes, notes. Taking tons of notes.

One of my many notebooks is just for compiling the words I have underlined while reading my books. This is one of my most precious and favorite notebooks. The one that holds words from the books I’ve read that have felt special to me.

Something about the words I include in this notebook said: “THIS IS IMPORTANT! REMEMBER THIS!”

Here is a small sample of the words I have included thus far in my notebook:

  • From Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg:
    • Opportunities are rarely offered, they are seized.
    • Learning to withstand criticism is a necessity for women.
  • From #GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso:
    • “There is zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas” as said by Susan Cain in #GIRLBOSS
  • From “The 4 Hour Work Week” by Tim Ferriss
    • “Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination” Oscar Wilde, as shared in The 4 Hour Work Week
    • Lack of time is actually lack or priorities
    • Follow your excitement
    • Being busy is a form of laziness, lazy thinking and indiscriminate action.
  • From “Talent is Never Enough” by John C. Maxwell
    • You will become on the outside what you believe on the inside.
    • “To succeed, jump as quickly at opportunities as you do at conclusions”-Benjamin Franklin in Talent is Never Enough 
    • Adversity is always the partner of progress.
  • From “The Virgin Way” by Richard Branson:
    • It’s not the hours you put in that matter, it’s what you put into the hours
    • To stand still is to go backwards, quickly!
  • From “The 3rd Alternative” by Stephen R. Covey:
    • Most dilemmas are false
    • The beginning of wisdom is listening.
  • From “7 Strategies for Wealth and Happiness” by Jim Rohn:
    • Happiness is activity with purpose. It’s love in practice. It’s both a grasp of the obvious and an awe of the mysterious.
    • Discipline is the glue that binds inspiration to achievement
    • Only applied knowledge counts
    • If you work hard on your job, you can make a living. If you work hard on yourself, you can make a fortune. Success is not something you pursue. Success is something you attract.
  • From “15 Laws of Growth” by John C. Maxwell:
    • Growth almost always comes from taking action and taking action almost always brings criticism. Move forward anyway.

And SO much more. I love words. I love ideas. I love having all the words and ideas that I have found amazing in one place. And I love sharing things I have learned.

Yet every time I sit down to write, I can’t seem to do it. I get caught up in the thoughts swirling around my head that say: “You are not special enough to write something people would want to read. You have nothing unique to contribute. Everything you want to say has already been said.”

feeling like not special

And I’m sitting down right now to say to myself, “Enough!” I know I am not the only one who has feelings like this. Maybe it’s not writing that you desire to do, maybe it’s running a marathon. Maybe it’s singing in front of a crowd. Maybe it’s inventing something. It could be anything!

And we aren’t doing it, we aren’t doing the thing we want to be doing. Because we don’t think we will be good enough.

So we don’t do it. We do not begin.

But it’s time to begin.

It’s time to stop holding back. It’s time to give all of ourselves to what we really want to do.

I’m committing to doing that. I’m going to turn all of these notes and research into a book. I’m going to write a book….

And I can’t wait.

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