My Favorite Game

Let’s play a game: Where do you see yourself five years from now?

Sometimes when my life gets super stressy {I don’t think that’s a word…but google didn’t underline it with a nice red line for me, so maybe it is! Oh wait…there’s that red line…oh well! Go with it!} I have to remind myself of the beloved 5×5 rule:


And then the next logical step is: I wonder what my life will look like in 5 years?

{Ok, I’m starting to realize what is “logical” to me, isn’t “logical” to someone else. But again, go with it…please?}

I guarantee you, 5 years ago? I did NOT imagine the life I have right now.

Which makes me think of two possible reasons why:

  1. I never took the time to define what I wanted my future to look like. So while I purposefully created the life I have right now, I think I may have wandered/stumbled onto this path and then grabbed on tightly, committed to the process and the journey and said “I’m in this to win this!” {nevermind the fact that I don’t feel like I’m winning most days….but still….}
  2. I was so clueless as to what I was getting into that there was no way I could have imagined what my life would look like.

I think it’s probably a mixture of those. Which makes me want to be better at defining what I want my future to look like, so then I won’t just wander or stumble, I’ll be an active participant. And I’ll be SUCH an active participant that I won’t end up completely clueless {semi-clueless is acceptable}.

Alright, here’s the steps to the game. Play along with me!

Step 1: What does my future look like in 5 years?

Write down only what feels right to you. Don’t write down what you think the right answer is or what others want for you. Be totally honest! We aren’t sharing answers here! {Well, that is unless you WANT to share your answers, because I’m totally down with that}

  • What does my house look like?
  • What does my car look like?
  • Where do I live?
  • What do my mornings/afternoons/evenings look like?
  • What is my job/how am I paying the bills?
  • Am I married? {ok, this is just a sample question. I am married and plan on STILL being married in 5 years….to the same man….happily….but you know, you’re different! You do you}
  • Do I have kids? {see above….again, you do you…because I have 4 kids, and they’re not going anywhere anytime soon….at least, they better not!}

You get the point right? Think about all the details, write this stuff down! It’s fun come on!! {if you’re reading this, I can only assume you would find some joy in grabbing a pen/pencil, a notebook/piece of paper/target receipt and playing along. Because like-attracts-like and I LOVE doing stuff like this, so it only makes sense that since you’re here, reading this…you like it too!}

Step 2: Get Specific

Now get even MORE detailed.

  • What does your home smell like?
  • What color is your home? how many rooms? Bathrooms? does it have a porch?  Acreage? a garden? an outdoor shower? a basketball hoop in the driveway…?
  • What do you hear when you open your windows at night to sit down and write a blog post? {oh wait, you don’t sit down at night and write blog posts? That’s just me?? Oh….well, in case you wanted to know, I hear a bunch of frogs happily croaking away. It’s magic}
  • What do you do in your free time?
  • What does your closet look like? {am I the only one that wishes for a super organized beautiful closet? I don’t think so, because there’s like COMPANIES that make BANK off of organizing closets…}
  • If a car was something you wrote down, get specific about that car. {Same goes for house or shoes or purse or….} Don’t just write SUV, write 2017 black chevy suburban with chrome details, leather seats, dual moon roofs, roof rack, dvd system, heated seats, tinted windows…you get the idea.

The more specific you make it, the more ATTACHED to it you become. Your vision for your future starts to become real. You are able to focus on it easier. When times get hard {ahem….tonight in this case….hence me dreaming about my future five years from now} you can actually focus on the specific vision you’ve created because it feels REAL. This helps pull you through those hard times {ahem….tonight…}

Step 3: Ask yourself again: What does my future look like in 5 years?

Now that you’ve taken some time to get specific, can you rewrite your vision for your future 5 years from now more succinctly and clearer? Maybe you could even sketch out some key words or pictures?

Step 4: Make it visible and get to work

Well, that’s technically two steps…but cut me a tiny bit of slack here. Make it visible means what it means: put your 5 year vision somewhere you’ll see it multiple times a day. Your car dashboard? Your bathroom mirror? The fridge? Wherever it is, put it there and make sure you see it a few times a day.

Next, get to work.

Your dream isn’t going to just happen on its own. No really, it’s not. You’ve got to put in the work. But it’s a whole lot easier to put in the work when you have something to aim at. I love these quotes:

I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacation with better care than they do their lives.Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change.

_If you don't know where you are going,

My life 5 years from now?

I’ve got a pretty good idea but I’m still working on it. It will involve a lot more travel, a lot more writing, a lot more candles and baking {I’ll actually be good at baking in 5 years…} a lot more quality time with my family, a clean car {big goal: monthly car detailing! Aim high Emily!} multiple dogs of all shapes and sizes, an annual pass to Disneyland, an organized closet, dinners with close friends once a month, a cutting flower garden……it’s a pretty beautiful life. 

That life of wealth and abundance I set out to create? It’s happening. It really is.

I can’t wait.

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