Recently I began listening to the book “Girl Wash Your Face,” by Rachel Hollis. I must admit, I placed some pretty harsh judgements on Ms. Rachel when I first came across her book on Amazon, while perusing the top titles on the “Christian Women’s Issues” list (I was doing book research people….but also, yes, I have issues….don’t we all?)
And the reason I had harsh judgements of her? Because I was jealous!
For reals. This woman has a gorgeous website (with a huge following) she’s married to a Disney Executive (who recently stepped down to work alongside her) she is funny and witty and enjoyable to read and she’s got the most infectious smile and beautiful hair.
I was jealous.
So therefore, I avoided her book. “This Rachel Hollis girl will be on the top selling list for like a week and then no one will even know who she is. I’m not going to waste my time on this book. I could write a better book than this. In fact, why does SHE have this book? I’M the one who should have a book like this”
Gosh, that’s horrible isn’t it!
But it’s how I felt, completely and utterly how I felt.
And this has been a pretty common thing in my life for as long as I’ve been aware of themes in my life (so, maybe like 2 years ago? I’m a slow learner)
The theme is as follows:
I have been jealous of (and therefore thought less-than-kind thoughts about) any woman who appears more successful, smarter, beautiful-er, funnier, kinder, more loving, more selfless, more faithful, more spiritual, has a better butt (….you get the gist right?) than me.
And Rachel Hollis had all the makings of this woman.
But then I saw her book was available to listen to on Scribd (are you aware of Scribd? It’s my absolute favorite thing) and I decided to press “play” while I was cleaning my kitchen yesterday.
And I heard her voice. It was so NORMAL. And friendly. And just, well, nice.
AND THEN, she read her book dedication. And she dedicated her book to my homegirl Jen Hatmaker.
And the thought came “well…..if she loves Jen Hatmaker, and I love Jen Hatmaker….maybe I could like her….”
And THEN she launched into her book.
And I grabbed a pen and started writing thoughts down that were coming to me faster than a freight train due to the words she was speaking.
And now? I’m hooked people. First it was Oprah. Then it was Jen Hatmaker.
Now, it’s Rachel Hollis.
I’ve started collecting a pretty amazing group of strong, smart, funny, spiritual women that I tune in to on a daily basis.
I’m learning so much from Ms. Rachel.
But the one that has been playing most frequently in my mind is this:
“Your life is supposed to be a journey from one unique place to another. It’s not supposed to be a merry-go-round that brings you back to the same spot over and over again.”
And then I remembered this quote:
And I’ve been thinking: what I am going to do, that I’ve always SAID I would do, to make this year (shoot, even this week!) different than last?
The past few years have been full of joys and challenges, new experiences and the same-old-same-old. But I feel like I should be stepping out of my comfort zone more often. I should be seeking answers to questions I’ve always had. I should be ENJOYING these years of motherhood with young children. I should be cherishing each date night I get with my handsome husband. I shouldn’t feel like I’m on a hamster wheel, running so fast but getting nowhere. And I do sometimes.
I think we all do sometimes. Right?
So, to wrap it up (because my writing gets less and less engaging the longer I ramble)(at least it does to me…and if it does to ME, I can only imagine it does to you…)
What can you do to make sure you’re not living the same year over and over again?
Maybe it’s learning a new skill (I’d love to learn how to bake fancy bread)
Maybe it’s starting a small business (I’d love to have a “staycation animal service” where I take care of people’s animals at their home when they’re out of town. NOT housesitting…cause I’ve got a house and a family and my own animals that need me….but something like I check on the animals 2-3x a day, let them play/go on a walk, put them in kennels at night etc. Weird idea right?)
Maybe it’s just saying “yes” to your children more often (I need to do more of this)
Maybe it’s going to a conference for something you’re interested in (yes please)
Maybe it’s writing in a gratitude journal (I’ve bought at least 3 of these in the past couple years….they all have like a week’s worth of gratitude in them…)
I bet you could think of something pretty awesome that would make this year different than the last.
So, what are you waiting for? Let’s do this thing!
(and for the record: I am no longer jealous of Rachel Hollis, now I just wish we could be BFF’s)